INTERVIEW: I Met My 16-Year-Old Donor Egg Child

INTERVIEW: I Met My 16-Year-Old Donor Egg Child

JoLana Talbot donated eggs anonymously because she was not offered any other option. One thing we’ve learned since starting We Are Egg Donors is that this is a pretty common experience.  What is uncommon about JoLana’s story is that she got the chance to connect with her ‘donor daughter,’ Brittan, 16 years after donating eggs. Even more unusual, JoLana and Brittan met in person for the very first time on Katie Couric’s daytime television show. The episode will air Wednesday, June 11 (find your local station here). JoLana filled us in on what it was like to meet a child produced from her donations. Check it out!

Anonymous Confession: “I lied my ass off to become an egg donor”

Anonymous Confession: “I lied my ass off to become an egg donor”

I spent years abusing cocaine and marijuana to deal with severe depression, anxiety, and anorexia. I spent a month in a psychiatric hospital ten years ago, and I still take prescription mood stabilizers twice a day. My family history includes ovarian cancer, schizophrenia, autism, substance use, and obesity.  But last year I was struggling to make ends meet and support a household with a salary of $30,000 in New York City.  So I lied my ass off to become an egg donor.

Seven Things You Should Not Say To An Egg Donor

Seven Things You Should Not Say To An Egg Donor

As a result of invisibility and stigma around egg donation, many egg donors struggle to find ways to talk about our experiences with people who are supportive and understanding. Sometimes even our loved ones are at a loss for words when we disclose that we are in the process of donating our eggs or that we have donated in the past.  I asked a group of egg donors about some of the uncomfortable questions and comments they’ve received in conversations about donating. Based on their answers, here are some things to avoid saying when talking to an egg donor.

Inside ‘The Cost of Life’: An Egg Donor's Investigative Report on the Egg Donation Industry

Inside ‘The Cost of Life’: An Egg Donor's Investigative Report on the Egg Donation Industry

I decided to donate my eggs for the first time last year. Once I was matched with a set of parents, I told my employer, whose staff encouraged me to write about the experience.  At first, I thought my experience would make for a lighthearted Sunday feature story, but as the donation process dragged on, the story changed into something very different.

INTERVIEW: “I’m a Queer Egg Donor”

INTERVIEW: “I’m a Queer Egg Donor”

This interview is about stigma, being queer, and navigating a heteronormative medical landscape. While egg donation is presented as a simple clinical procedure, there is a lot of room for reducing stigma and acknowledging a fuller scope of, you know, how people actually feel about it. To some of us,  our narratives are more complex than “wham, bam, thank you for your huevos, good job, here’s a check, you’ll be fine, good bye.”

Gamechanging Court Case: Another Egg Donor Appealed Taxes Owed

Gamechanging Court Case: Another Egg Donor Appealed Taxes Owed

Tax law will soon be clearer on how compensation from our egg donations will be treated for tax purposes in the United States. Throughout these last few months, We Are Egg Donors has fielded dozens of emails from U.S. donors regarding the appeal process. Our Forum has been a-buzz with donors discussing how they were advised by their individual accountants. Soon, the mystery surrounding unwelcome 1099s will be clarified, if not disappear.

INTERVIEW: I Was Paid To Ship My Eggs from the USA to Australia

INTERVIEW: I Was Paid To Ship My Eggs from the USA to Australia

Skyping with the Australian clinic felt contradictory. I felt extremely confused during the interview because my interviewer kept referring to my egg donation as “altruistic.” To me, “altruism” means giving a gift, in this case it would be my eggs, but I wasn’t exactly altruistic because I would be getting paid.

“I Was an American Egg Donor in Bangkok”

“I Was an American Egg Donor in Bangkok”

Communicating with my doctor was a challenge; even though he really did try his best, he didn’t understand everything I was saying. I had never donated before and I had a lot of questions. But because of the language barrier, I had a really hard time getting answers. In retrospect, it would be a lot safer for egg donors if there were a translator who could make sure that pertinent medical information is being communicated, both ways.

Leah Campbell on Egg Donation and Endometriosis

Leah Campbell on Egg Donation and Endometriosis

I needed 5 extensive surgeries over a very short time period. I was extremely sick, and every doctor I saw was exasperated by how aggressive my case was. I went from being 100% healthy, to having one of the worst cases of endometriosis that even some of the top specialists had ever seen – and that all started within 6 months of donating my eggs.

Sex, Money, Eggs: A Candid Conversation with Fela Rue

Sex, Money, Eggs: A Candid Conversation with Fela Rue

I felt like I had to sell myself. Saying the things although true are what people want to hear. It’s worse than a blind date. Specifically the motivation question — Why did you choose to be a donor? — I was specifically told not to say “financial incentive.” Which I think is most donors motivation. I feel like when you are looking for a life partner you are looking at the person as a whole, flaws and all, and I feel like this selection process should be treated the same.

How a High-demand 8x Egg Donor Appealed her Taxes and Won

How a High-demand 8x Egg Donor Appealed her Taxes and Won

Elizabeth was what is called a “premier” egg donor: she was paid $15,000 per cycle. Due to the subsequent health issues she experienced, she was able to successfully appeal all taxes on her compensation. In this interview, I ask her about what it’s like being a high-demand donor, what her body has gone through, and for advice she has for egg donors.